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Avoid the Snare

Posted by Colby Kinser on

"Oh, you're a Christian? So, what do you think about the gay issue?"

Have you heard this question? The moment someone finds out you're a Christian or a church-goer or a Bible reader, some form this question is often not far behind. It's the current litmus test.

But what are they asking? Do they really want to know your opinion on this issue? Or are they looking for a quick way to determine what to think of you, how to posture you in their life? Or perhaps there's another motive, but I've rarely seen where someone really wanted to explore thoughts and opinions on the issue itself.

How to respond? Do I dig in my heels and go combative? Am I tempted to hedge on biblical principles just to avoid conflict or rejection? Do I make the messy error of trying to slowly develop a nuanced understanding of the fallen state and soteriology?

Since the question is usually not at face value, trying to answer at face value is likely not the best response. Furthermore, it's not the main issue, so I personally don't want to get wrapped around the axle on a secondary issue.

Perhaps the following example can show you a way to respond differently. I don't recommend memorizing this and using it - it's not your set of words. But I do recommend that you think this through and be prepared to respond in a way that best directs people to something great about the Gospel.

A: "Oh, you're a Christian? So, what do you think about the gay issue?"


B: "Let me ask you this: If I think something is a sin, does that make it a sin?"


A: "No."


B: "And if I say something is OK, does that make it OK?"


A: "Certainly not."


B: "So, in other words, what I think doesn't really matter. What matters is how I treat you."

And now, Lord willing, there is space for a much better conversation about eternally significant things.

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